Born again, and again and again

Blessing for Adult Milestones
By Rabbi Elliot Rose Kukla

May the One who blessed our ancestors – Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, Leah, Zilpa and Bilha; Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob – bless you as you enter into this new chapter in your life. The world was not formed by a single act. Each and every day God renews the work of creation. May God grant you the strength to constantly renew your own creation. May you open your heart and mind to continuous growth, unexpected change, and the perpetual unsettling, liberating expansion of being alive. May you have the courage to name and sanctify this moment of change that is shaping your body and soul in the image of the Divine….

Blessed are You, El Shaddai, our God, the Renewing One of the world, who has kept us alive and sustained us and allowed us to reach this time of transformation. And let us say: Amen.


My friend Deb handed me this blessing today over breakfast at Mirabelle’s. “Isn’t it so you?” she asked. Absolutely. So me.

When I first started coaching training, to be “so me” was really my main dream. So me at work, at home, in my body, with people, alone. Comfortable, grounded in my own self, in the world, in my choices. Everything else was window-dressing, housekeeping, details.

It is many years later. It is, as usual, now. I am thirty-five years old. It’s the first time I’ve written that. I am so me. I am so perpetually unsettled, so continuously changing, so liberated and expansive and alive. And always naming everything, like a child.

So me. And so still working on it, the comfort part, the consistency part, the remembrance that confusion is a veil I can lift so easily but forget to lift. That letting go is in fact so easy (but why is it so hard???)

So there. The birthday is almost over. It has been a beautiful day. It was my first birthday on Facebook, which was quite an experience. Look me up, why don’t you, and ask me to be your friend. I’ll say yes.

Fuck! Pearl’s awake. God grant me the strength…

6 thoughts on “Born again, and again and again

  1. GailNHB says:

    I LOVE this post. All of it. Especially that last line.

    I hope you had a fabulous birthday celebration. Thanks for sharing your life and thoughts and prayers and wisdom and humor with us.

    That video of the musician in DC stopped me cold. How many acts of beauty have I too walked past? May my eyes, ears, and heart be open more and more to all that is around me. To the music of life itself.

    Peace, Gail


  2. Rowena says:

    Happy Birthday! Glad to be your FB friend.

    That prayer is wonderful. I’m not really a prayer type, but if you were to take out the god and biblical references, it would be right up my alley, so I must admit it’s wonderful.

    I think the wisdom we have in our mid to late thirties is so valuable, because we wouldn’t have gotten it if it weren’t for all the work we did in our early 30s, our 20s our teens. Even… maybe especially our childhood.

    I think about how things have begun to come clear for me, and yet still have that veil… but how I can see through the veil a little bit better… and I wonder how the next decade or two or three or four or five? Will just deepen the lessons we have already learned.



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