First things first: Let’s just dispel of any notions of “minor” surgery, shall we? Yes, there is no question a long spectrum of surgeries and respective recovery periods, but slicing through muscle – not matter how small the incision – is simply not something the body responds to favorably.
And another thing: I would like to personally thank every scalpel-wielder who has ever put a hand on a patient’s shoulder, or responded to a Sunday-morning page with the words, “How are you feeling?”
To all of my friends who have had C-sections: I now have the slightest inkling of what you went through. I hope I was attentive, compassionate, and helpful – and if I wasn’t, I wish I had been and I’m sorry. I hereby make a vow to bring food and/or call and/or send sweet messages to any friend or neighbor who has *any* kind of surgical procedure. Or needs anything for that matter, surgery or not. Call on me, people.
To anyone who has ever nursed someone through illness, whether back to health or lovingly towards a peaceful passage: I bow to you, to how you put your own needs aside time and again, to the complexity of emotions you managed and moved through, to your recognition that shit and piss and puss and blood and rashes and sweat and bile and tears are what we all share, what make us so vulnerable and human.
To the body itself: I marvel at your extraordinary ability to adapt and heal. I will do what I can to contribute to the cause.
To my girls, my beautiful, strong, healthy daughters: Thank you for making your own mac & cheese for lunch today while I supervised from a kitchen chair. Thank you for helping Dada clean up after dinner. Thank you for washing each other’s bodies since I couldn’t bend over the tub. Thank you for the hugs you gave me throughout the day, carefully avoiding my wound. Thank you for being you.
To you, reading this: Thank you for your kindness and presence. If you need healing, please ask for help. If someone asks you for help, please say yes. For whatever reason, receiving is something many of us find difficult. We don’t want to put anyone out, be a burden.
Finally, a request: Think about someone in your world who could use some help. Offer it. Think about something you need help with. Ask for it.
Say yes. Say thank you.