The Elephant in the Room

How did it come to pass that we whisper of the elephant in the room as if she is a threat, the thing we’re perhaps avoiding, pretending isn’t there, a symbol of what we fear confronting?

Elephants can teach us that gentleness, commitment, and communication in relationships is very powerful and necessary to keep relationships alive, trusting and loving, whether it be friends, family or partner. Deeply committed to all creatures with whom they have relationships, elephants are tough when protecting others and gentle when nurturing them. The matriarch (the oldest, most experienced female leader of a herd) leads in a way that is both gentle and inclusive. Elephants are able to communicate telepathically. This can teach us how to truly listen to others. Read more.

To acknowledge the elephant is to open the door to connections that begin to deepen and grow only when we speak the truth from a place of love–not criticism or judgment. We think of this as risky–but the real risk is to ignore the elephant, to deny the strength, power, grace, nurturing, and communication she embodies and offers us to embrace in ourselves.

Amazing things happen when we say yes, there is an elephant in the room. Let’s look into her eyes, and each other’s. And truly listen.

6 thoughts on “The Elephant in the Room

  1. Pamela says:

    Beautiful! Thank you so much. Lately, I have been struggling with the transition from summer to fall. I always think I am the only one, that I am the sole loser among everyone else with their sharpened #2 pencils. It turns out that it’s never like that. That we are all struggling with our own elephants. Thank you for the reminder to open our eyes and practice gentleness.



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